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Thesaurus for the word "Bro"(Lolbrary):

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Bromance is such an interesting area of study because the conflict between hyper-masculine traits and the idea of homosexuality has been dated throughout history. While reading Becker's essay, I couldn't but help but think of the Japanese warrior class, the samurai, and the Greek warring state, Sparta. Both of these separate cultures epitomize the idea of masculinity, or at least Hollywood does, with the movie "300" and Tom Cruise's "The Last Samurai." The common theme behind these movies seem to concentrate on the close bond these men form through tradition and long hours of training....so, in short, bromances. I wasn't reminded of these particular social classes because of their bravery, awesome military skills and blah blah blah, but instead I found it interesting that both of these social classes had a history of homosexuality. I am sure Tom Cruise and Gerald Butler would have passed on the role if their movies were to take a very historically accurate perspective. 

For the Japanese samurai, "it was customary for a boy in the wakashū age category to undergo training in the martial arts by apprenticing to a more experienced adult man. The man was permitted, if the boy agreed, to take the boy as his lover until he came of age; this relationship, often formalized in a "brotherhood contract",^[9] was expected to be exclusive, with both partners swearing to take no other (male) lovers. This practice, along with clerical pederasty, developed into the codified system of age-structured homosexuality known as shudō, abbreviated from wakashūdo, the "way (do) of wakashū".^[10] The older partner, in the role of nenja, would teach the wakashū martial skills, warrior etiquette, and the samurai code of honor, while his desire to be a good role model for his wakashū would lead him to behave more honorably himself; thus a shudō relationship was considered to have a "mutually ennobling effect".^[11] In addition, both parties were expected to be loyal unto death, and to assist the other both in feudal duties and in honor-driven obligations such as duels and vendettas."

The warring state of Sparta saw homosexuality as an essential cornerstone of their society. They believed that their close relationships that had been developed off the battlefield would carry on into battle, allowing them to have a tactical advantage over their enemies. "Like other institutions in Plutarch’s Sparta, homosexuality had as its end the preservation of the state. Lycurgus believed that love ties between men who were comrades-in-arms increased allegiance to their ranks. In a word, homosexual love promoted battlefield determination -- lovers joined in the battle field side-by-side, the lawgiver felt, made for better soldiering -- and all the better fostered the love of state."

I know that Bromance differs in these historical societies in a way because Bromance seems to embrace many of the same attributes, but at the same time deny any homosexual tendencies or allusions. Another urbandictionary word that I can easily associate with bromance is "TFM" or total frat move and it is used to describe someone performing a hyper masculine action with no homosexual allusion. 

The Irony of "Bromance"

Like Sasha, I also have a problem with many of the examples of bromance that were brought up. What exactly constitutes a bromance, and what makes that different from a "normal" friendship between two guys?

I agree with the author that the show Bromance does, at times, establish itself as gay-friendly. For example, having Michael on the show is not an issue at all and is depicted and received as natural. However, the show also proves to be the opposite (for example, the "awkward" and "uncomfortable" hottub eliminations).

There seem to be some Foucauldian elements here that would prove that Jenner's show is not as gay-friendly as it may seem. The whole bromance theme that we see in the show as well as the times it pops up in sitcoms like Seinfeld further emphasizes the social stigma attached to homosexuality and that we must classify ourselves as gay or straight and perform our sexuality as such. Just the fact that we had to coin the term "bromance" suggests that homosexuality is still not as "normal" as heterosexuality. The term suggests that there is a grey area between male homosexuality and heterosexuality, but that men in this grey area are not (I repeat, NOT) gay.

Men in these shows get very defensive and make sure others know that they are not (God forbid!!!) gay. They are constantly checking themselves to make sure that their friendship or bromance is not crossing the metaphorical line between buddies and lovers. They often say things like, "We're not gay... not that there's anything wrong with that." ...Except that the characters in the examples given go out of their way to explain and prove to others that they are straight.

If our society was completely free of homophobia, there would be no desire for straight men to prove to others that they are straight and not gay. I even think that the term "bromance" would not exist.

No bro, I Love You!

Yo bro! Bromances have become an object of great attention and to some extent ridicule within the media. Movies like ‘I love you man’ show the humor in men trying to find friendship, but they also show how there is a heteronormative discourse is still prevalent in our society. Becker’s article addressing the current bromance phenomenon I think points out many critical issues that still underlie men’s' sexuality and stereotypes in media texts. The article focuses a lot of analysis on the show ‘Bromance’ where Brody Jenner has a competition to find his next best friend or ‘bro.’ The main thing I found to be very interesting about the article was that bromances are used as a way to allow men to express emotions while maintaining their heterosexuality. Yet, there is still a need for theses ‘bros’ to reinforce the fact that they are not gay, but at the same time okay with gay individuals. When a contestant on ‘Bromance’ decided to leave the show, because he felt like he didn’t quite fit in. He was openly gay and many of the challenges required picking up ‘chicks’ and he lived in a house that had women’s’ panties displayed on the walls. When he left many of the straight guys went to say how great of a guy he was, just that he didn’t fit in, and that they had nothing against gay men. They acknowledge that they are not against gay people, but that this individual didn’t fit in with their group of straight men trying to get friendship. I think having bromances makes appropriate behaviors for men much more complicated. They are told it’s okay to show emotion, but when seen together people automatically think that they are gay. I don’t think bromances are liberating because of the constant reaffirmations that the ‘bros’ on Bromance made, along with other examples Becker identifies. They are straight, but can get teary-eyed during their bro-elimination ceremony. I think bromances just make identifying what behavior is socially appropriate for men even more confusing for men. They now have to explain their actions and friendships when they hang out with other men.

Ahh, the Bromance

I had a real problem with a lot of the examples that were brought up in this article, but I’ll try to keep myself from ranting. To begin with, however, I would like to ask a simple question: why is it that as soon as intimate male bonds are depicted on television a name must be assigned to this concept in order to draw a distinction between friendship and homosexuality? As far as I know, no term has been coined regarding close female bonds – we don’t feel the need to announce to the world that WE ARE NOT LESBIANS. Why is this cultural phenomenon of “bromance” so easily condoned by the media and by society in general?

Our writer begins by stating that homosexuality has increasingly become more acceptable by society over the past couple decades…so why is there such a need to clarify this difference? The real problem to me is that, it seems, men believe that by showing emotion, care, and consideration for one another they are emasculating themselves. Close male bonds have always existed: why is it then that so recently men need an “excuse” to behave a certain way? Why is it that now they fear being mistaken as gay? A logical explanation I suppose would be that gay characters have received greater roles recently, or that acceptance of homosexuality IS in fact more common and thus men are fearful of being “seduced” into this lifestyle, as this is one of the criticisms of homosexuality that consistently comes up. To me, it’s just ridiculous that this term even exists. Men can just be friends – they don’t need to be “cool” by defining their friendships as “bromances.”

As for the reality TV show Bromance that acted as the central example in this essay, please give me a break and PLEASE tell me that nobody actually watched the show. This just seems like a pathetic excuse for a celebrity male to gain attention, to promote advertisements, and to perpetuate the stereotypes that are a result of heteronormativity. Congratulations – you had a gay contestant…you didn’t kick him off the show. Nonetheless, the contests that were conducted are not only misogynistic but they are also reinforcing the dominant discourse of the heterosexual male.

Sorry, but I couldn’t really help from ranting.